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Things we didn't talk about when I was a girl : a memoir

Vanasco, Jeannie (author.).

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  • ISBN: 1947793454
  • ISBN: 9781947793453
  • Physical Description: 357 pages ; 23 cm
  • Edition: First US edition.
  • Publisher: Portland, Oregon : Tin House Books, 2019.
  • Distributor: W W Norton & Co Inc 2019.

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Formatted Contents Note: Part one : The idea -- Part two : The phone call -- Part three : The next phone call -- Part four : The visit.
Summary, etc.: "Jeannie Vanasco has had the same nightmare since she was a teenager. She startles awake, saying his name. It is always about him: one of her closest high school friends, a boy named Mark. A boy who raped her. When her nightmares worsen, Jeannie decides--after fourteen years of silence--to reach out to Mark. He agrees to talk on the record and meet in person. "It's the least I can do," he says. Jeannie details her friendship with Mark before and after the assault, asking the brave and urgent question: Is it possible for a good person to commit a terrible act? Jeannie interviews Mark, exploring how rape has impacted his life as well as her own. She examines the language surrounding sexual assault and pushes against its confines, contributing to and deepening the #MeToo discussion. Exacting and courageous, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl is part memoir, part true crime record, and part testament to the strength of female friendships--a recounting and reckoning that will inspire us to ask harder questions and interrogate our biases. Jeannie Vanasco examines and dismantles long-held myths of victimhood, discovering grace and power in this genre-bending investigation into the trauma of sexual violence." --Publisher

  • Booklist Reviews : Booklist Reviews 2019 September #2
    *Starred Review* Vanasco's (The Glass Eye, 2017) second memoir sets the canon of #MeToo-era creative nonfiction on fire: she interviews her rapist. In the wake of an assault in her early college years, Vanasco was confused. The assailant was a close friend, though their relationship understandably dissolved without closure following the attack. The details and perceived severity of the crime kept Vanasco from ever fully understanding the incident as a rape. Positive memories of her rapist, whom she calls Mark, fog her classification of him as a bad person. This is a slow-burning, reverberating meditation on the nuances of morality, masculinity, and punishment. Between transcriptions of her conversations with Mark, Vanasco chronicles her experience contacting him—how her friends and family responded, how often she needed therapy, and her fear that she would endanger feminism and survivors' success by giving a voice to an abuser. What emerges is messy, thoughtful, and illuminating. In his own words, verbatim, Mark becomes a dynamic human rather than a flat villain, which somehow makes his crimes against the author appear even more sinister than if his full character had been left to her discretion. With this publication, Vanasco investigates whether understanding one's abuser can break the cycle of abuse. Inimitable. Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews.

Subject: United States
Sex crimes
Rape victims
Sex crimes United States Biography
Rape United States Biography
Rape victims United States Biography
Vanasco, Jeannie
Genre: Biography.
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