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What we will become : a mother, a son, and a journey of transformation / Mimi Lemay.

Lemay, Mimi, (author.).

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  • 1 of 1 copy available at LARL/NWRL Consortium.
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Location Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status Due Date
McIntosh Public Library 921 LEM (Text) 33500013166285 New Available -

Record details

  • ISBN: 9780544965836
  • ISBN: 0544965833
  • Physical Description: xiv, 316 pages, 8 unnumbered pages of plates : illustrations (chiefly color) ; 24 cm
  • Publisher: Boston : Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2019.

Content descriptions

General Note:
Includes "A letter to my son Jacob on his 5th birthday" at back of book.
Summary, etc.:
"A mother's memoir of her transgender child's odyssey, and her journey outside the boundaries of the faith and culture that shaped her"-- Provided by publisher.

  • Booklist Reviews : Booklist Reviews 2019 September #1
    *Starred Review* When Lemay's younger child, pronounced a girl at birth and named Em, turns three, she begins asserting that she is actually a boy ("I not pitending!"). The nonplussed parents hope this is just a phase, but there is more and more evidence of gender dysphoria. Is their child transforming? In alternating chapters, this heartfelt memoir also charts the author's own transformation. Raised an ultra-Orthodox Jew by a single mother, she seems to have been essentially joyless. Devout nevertheless, she attends a seminary for young Jewish women for three years and seems content with the prospect of an arranged marriage, which fails when her intended husband commits adultery. Gradually, her independence becomes more and more important, and by the time she is in her last year of graduate school, she has left home and her faith. To her mother's considerable distress, Lemay then marries outside the faith. Meanwhile, her second child continues to insist she is a boy named Jacob, and, finally, shortly after her fourth birthday, her parents decide to begin her transition. Aside from being a moving memoir, Lemay's is an important book because there is virtually nothing else available about transgender children as young as Jacob. Though most readers will view Jacob as the book's main character, his older, precocious sister says that love and kindness are. And who can argue with that? Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews.

Author Notes

MIMI LEMAY is a graduate of The Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy at Tufts University. As an advocate for transgender rights, Mimi has published op-eds in the Boston Globe and appeared on TV and radio.

Subject: Lemay, Mimi.
Parents of transsexuals > Biography.
Ex-Jews > Biography.
Mother and child.
Mother and child.
Parents of transsexuals.
Genre: Autobiographies.

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