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Record details

  • ISBN: 9780735218826
  • ISBN: 073521882X
  • Physical Description: pages cm
  • Publisher: New York : G. P. Putnam's Sons, [2019]

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Formatted Contents Note:
A quick manifesto -- The girls next door -- Nerds and wizards and Jesus, oh my! -- Inharmonious hormones -- A very dramatic (first) coming out -- In my own two shoes, on my own two feet -- A gothic wonderland, a major letdown -- Beloved token -- Sissy, femme, queer, and proud -- Dear Mom and Dad -- Epilogue: notes to self.
Summary, etc.:
"A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above"-- Provided by publisher.

  • Booklist Reviews : Booklist Reviews 2019 February #1
    *Starred Review* ?Tobia, who uses they and their as pronouns, is a gifted storyteller. Their fascinating story begins with life as a feminine little boy, whose best friends were girls, to graduation summa cum laude from Duke as a proud trans person. Along the way, it's a classic coming-of-age story that doubles as a quest to discover one's gender identity. "Sissy," they write, "was the first gender identity I ever had, the first word the world ever gave me." Gay (a term Tobia detests) arrives later as they come out of the closet and begin to reject a binary identity. Other words follow as they mature: transgender, genderqueer, nonbinary, gender nonconforming, etc. Words are obviously important in considering gender, but so is incident. A transformative moment comes when, as a teenager, Tobia buys a pair of women's shoes—with high heels, no less—and ultimately wears them to church. Surprisingly—for a gay person—they write, "Church was my saving grace." Nevertheless, their relationship with their church becomes uneasy at one significant point before they are able to return to its grace. The most interesting part of the story, however, concerns Tobia's years at Duke, where, they note, they were a "Big Queen on Campus." These were also the years when they ultimately found their gender as a trans person. Always thoughtful, Tobia writes extremely well, with insight, lucidity, occasional anger, and, when things get too serious, wit. The result is, hands down, one of the best trans narratives available; it deserves a place in every library. Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews.

Author Notes

Jacob Tobia (pronouns: they/them) is a gender nonconforming writer, producer, and performer based in Los Angeles. A member of the Forbes 30 Under 30 and the OUT 100, Jacob made television history voicing the nonbinary character of Double Trouble in Netflix's She-Ra and The Princess of Power. Their writing and advocacy have been featured by The New York Times, Time, The Guardian, Good Morning America, and The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, among others. Originally from Raleigh, North Carolina, Jacob has worn high heels in the White House twice. Sissy is their debut memoir.

Subject: Tobia, Jacob, 1991-
Gender-nonconforming people > United States > Biography.
Gender-nonconforming people.
United States.
Genre: Biography.

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